Blended families are very common and I even come from one due to the passing of my Dad. When my Mom remarried, I was 16 years old and this special segment would have made such a difference for each of us. Family Promises is a moment during the wedding ceremony when the love and commitment for the children is formally acknowledged. The promises are written to include the “new” parent, and depending on the age of the children, a short and sweet promise is presented to them as well. These promises are a lovely way to assure the children that they are not losing a parent, but instead gaining another person who will love them forever.
How we go about this part of the ceremony is after all of your promises have been made as a couple such as the Consent question and your Vows, we will then invite your children to join us. The wording depends on the dynamics such as if one or both of you have children. Here’s an example if both of you have children:
“Do you promise to be patient, caring and loving to all your children; treating each as your own? Do you promise to gently guide them, encourage them and work together to provide a nurturing and loving home for each of you?”
And then you answer, “We do.”
I keep it quite simple for the little ones, such as:
“Do you promise to do your best to love everyone in your family and to be kind to them?” And everyone eagerly awaits the, “I do.” Although sometimes it’s a shy nod.
With this quick, yet meaningful, section of the ceremony, the children know they are very much part of this new adventure and it warms the hearts of all who are present with tears tending to make their appearance. It’s a beautiful moment which highlights the commitment to the formally joined family.
If you’re interested in having me officiate for you or if you’re ready to have your children baptized or blessed, you will find info of the various services I offer on the Services page.
Blessings in your life together,
Kelly
Interfaith Minister and Professional Ceremony Officiant